Let’s be honest… dilators can be so daunting. And if you’ve been using dilators like a goal you have to “achieve,” you’re not alone. But this is the shift that changes everything: The biggest dilator mistake is hyper-focusing on pain-free insertion instead of building safety first. Because your pelvic floor isn’t something you can force into cooperation. It’s part of a protection system. And when your body doesn’t feel safe, it will tighten, even if you’re doing all the “right” things. So try me